Welcome to the gentle wellness revolution . . .
Hey, I see you there—trying to do it all, and somehow feeling like you’re falling short, doing your best to keep up with the never-ending upward spiral to do it all and be it all—even when it seems like there simply aren’t enough hours in the day. Taking care of everyone else, yet struggling to fit yourself into the equation.
I know all of this because I have been there. Wellness, especially post-baby, used to be elusive. I knew I needed to eat well, exercise, and take better care of myself, but the whole thing just seemed like a magic formula I couldn’t quite figure out.
Tired, overwhelmed, and beating myself up over the state of my post-baby bod, I was convinced that I just needed to be more disciplined, to find more motivation, and basically just get my act together. “I can figure everything else, out, so why can’t I figure out this?” I knew I needed a change, but didn’t know where to start.
Frustrated and sick and tired of feeling sick and tired, I eventually decided to throw myself into wellness, vowing to try everything and anything, all in a desperate attempt to get control of my life and feel better in my body.
The wellness quest started innocently enough, a diet here, a new workout plan there. Pretty soon, though, I found myself running in circles, trying to keep up with everything. Between the juice fasts, 90-day cleanses, daily workouts, crazy meal plans, and trying every single mindfulness and wellness app ever developed, I felt like I was barely keeping my head above water.
But I kept pushing through, and soon the effort and work started to pay off. My skin was clearer, I felt stronger, and I lost weight. The drawback? I simply couldn’t keep up. Cramming daily 60-minute workouts, marathon weekend meal prep sessions, and alllllllll the self-improvement into my full life (hello, mama, wife, full-time job) was draining and totally unsustainable.
With a stubborn, all-in attitude, I kept at it, though, buying all the latest powders and potions, following the latest trends, and jumping from diet to diet, desperately seeking the next best thing. But the more I searched and strived, the worse I felt.
Chasing perfection was sending me into a constant state of anxiety, and the all-or-nothing, comparison game had me feeling stuck on the shoulds, the everyone-else-can-so-why-can’t I, the paralyzing feelings of not-enough.
I remember lying awake many nights, mentally running through my to-do list, trying to figure out how to fit it all in. “Is there a way I can up wake up an another hour earlier to fit in an extra workout? Should I really be doing a hour-long self-care morning routine?
Was the toothpaste I just bought for my family clean enough, or am I supposed to be avoiding that brand for some reason? What about that non-stick pan I meant to replace, but am still using? Maybe I should sign up for that new organic meal delivery service I just saw and ad for?” The list was long, and it never seemed to end.
I felt lost, alone, and really, really tired. On top of that, I felt like I was the only one. The only one who felt like wellness was another full-time job—one that I didn’t have time for—the only one who felt like a failure when scrolling past those the Insta-perfect wellness feeds, the only one who was struggling. My quest for wellness was having the opposite effect—I couldn’t keep up, and I was making myself miserable in the process.
I remember after one particularly hard day coming home from work completely drained, wanting nothing more than to collapse onto the couch for the rest of the night. Instead, I dragged myself into the kitchen, opening the fridge, only to come face to face with a mass of jumbled ingredients. Having spent a ridiculous amount of time putting together a complicated meal plan the weekend before, I realized I was now too tired to actually follow through.
Guiltily throwing yet another armload of produce in the garbage, I had a sudden moment of clarity:
Maybe wellness doesn't have to be so hard. Maybe I didn’t need to feel like a constant failure. Maybe the idea that wellness has to be so complicated was one big fat lie.
I was over it—over trying to squeeze myself into a wellness box that clearly wasn’t made for me. Over healthy recipes requiring a zillion weird ingredients, and wasting half my weekend trying to prep all.the.things. Over the wellness + self-help industry telling me I just needed to work harder, try something new, and somehow find more hours in the day.
The impossible ideals had became boring. I knew there had to be a better way. But where to start? I quickly realized I needed to get back to my roots as a habit and behavior change researcher, diving into the science about sustainable change. I also felt a pull to more deeply connect with the ancient mindfulness, self-compassion, and reliance teachings I’d learned as part of my training as a yoga teacher.
After spending hours reading, studying, writing, and poring over the research, I found that studies show that perfectionism, all-or-nothing thinking, and comparison don’t work when it comes to wellness. As in, applying these ways of thinking actually makes reaching wellness goals harder.
What’s more, I found that these ways of thinking can cause depression, anxiety, body dissatisfaction, and burn out. So basically, all the methods I’d been using to change were actually making everything harder, and causing me to feel really bad in the process. This was a life-changing moment.
Suddenly everything started to fall into place. I wasn’t the problem. It was my approach that was broken. With a sense of lightness, clarity, and ease, I vowed to completely flip the script, to change my approach, to find a new way to well.
It was at this moment that the gentle wellness movement was born. Starting with simplicity in mind, I dove into mindset—the ingrained thought patterns that were keeping me stuck—and worked to shift my thinking toward a more effect way. From there, I worked on developing a set of strategies that would simplify the daily process of wellness, and allow me to fit it effortlessly into my life. Next up, I dove into daily habits, routines, and rhythms; using science-based tactics to make them stickier and more doable.
Pretty quickly something amazing started to happen. I suddenly felt a sense of freedom and clarity like never before. Joy and ease became part of my everyday. I was able to stick with my habits, but without driving myself crazy in the process. Better yet, I was actually reaching my wellness goals, but this time in a gentler, more compassionate, sustainable way.
Today gentle wellness is my mantra and my mission, because this is what I want for you, too. I believe that’s why I’m here: to help you reject the lie that wellness has to be complicated and full of struggle.
To help you stop overthinking, to embrace #gentleoverperfect, and to find freedom and clarity along the way.
I want you to simplify, let go of what’s weighing you down, and to find your very own gentle wellness life. That’s why I’m here. Welcome to gentle wellness. Let’s make it happen, together.