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The Simplified Guide to Letting Go of Perfectionism

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The Simplified Guide to Letting Go of Perfectionism

What Perfectionism Looks Like in Real Life

Perfectionism, at its core, is about the stories we tell ourselves regarding what and how we should be.

It’s about creating aspirational, often unattainable, expectations and comparing where we are now with where we think we ought to be.

And often it’s about beating ourselves up when we fall short or don’t hit the mark.

Never mind that the expectations weren’t even possible to begin with.

Perfectionism?

It requires suspending the reality of real life, constructing a world that is unachievable, and then berating or beating ourselves up for not achieving or accomplishing an effectively false reality.

The Difference Between Perfectionism and Striving for Greatness

There’s an important difference between perfectionism and striving for greatness.

As Brené Brown writes in, The Gifts of Imperfection: "Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be your best.

Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame.

It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight.”

How Perfectionism May Be Holding You Back

Perfectionism shows up in many ways, but has a particularly negative impact on health and wellness.

Because it may be tempting to strive to eat perfectly, move perfectly, and look perfect, attempts toward perfection can lead to frustration, overwhelm, self-criticism, and often abandoning healthy lifestyle habits altogether.

On top of that, perfectionism may show up differently depending on your specific Wellness Personality.

For example, a Dynamo might be stuck comparing herself to her own internal expectations, while a Seeker may be focused on comparing herself to what others are doing.

And the Cultivator may be feel like everyone else has it figured out, and discouraged by how far she thinks she has to go.

(Curious about your Wellness Personality? Take the quiz to find out your type and to grab your free resource guide!).

The Simplified Guide to Ditching Perfectionism

The good news is that perfectionism does not have to be a way of life.

Read on for the 5-step process to ditch perfection for good.

1 | See Mistakes as a Normal Part of the Learning and Growing Process

Congratulations, you’re human! And humans make mistakes.

Instead of viewing mistakes as a reflection of your self-worth, and immediately jumping to embarrassment, shame, and self-criticism, try reframing the internal conversation.

When you make as mistake, a misstep, or slide into old habits, remind yourself that you are human and mistakes are a normal part of the learning and growing process.

2 | Chose Meaning Over Perfect

Take a moment to self-reflect on your personal values, and whether meaning is more important than perfection.

If it is, become more mindful of moments when you consciously choose meaning over perfect.

Maybe that looks like a 5-minute walk in the outdoors, even when you can’t get to the gym for an hour.

Or perhaps that looks like roasting a few veggies and grabbing a rotisserie chicken from the store in favor of an elaborate dinner.

3 | Gentle Over Perfect

If self-compassion is perfectionist kryptonite, let's have more of it!

Self-compassion simply means extending the same kindness and empathy to yourself that you do to others.

Easier said than done, right?

Here’s what to do: the next time you find yourself falling into the perfectionist mindset, try imagining that you’re talking to a friend or child.

What would you say to him or her? Would you share kind and empathetic words?

If so, try sharing those same words with yourself, and remember: gentle is the new perfect.

4 | Just Get Started

Procrastination is a sure sign that you’re stuck in a perfectionist mindset.

Putting off the workout because you can’t fit in a full hour.

Skipping meal prep because you don’t have time to prepare a full week’s worth of food.

Not meditating because it’s difficult to sit for 20 minutes.

The next time you find yourself procrastinating or putting something off that you know is important for you health and self-care, ask yourself: am I avoiding this because I have an expectation of perfect?

If the answer is yes, there’s a simple answer.

Do something.

Anything.

Just get started.

Some, in this care, is most certainly better than none.

5 | Don’t confuse Consistency With Perfection

We all know that consistency is key when it comes to long-term success.

But we get into trouble when we confuse consistency with perfection.

Consistency does not mean being perfect, or hitting the mark every single day.

It means showing up and doing the work most of the time.

Do it more than you don’t.

It’s that simple.

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A Simplified Guide to Avoid Falling Off the Wellness Wagon

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A Simplified Guide to Avoid Falling Off the Wellness Wagon

Let’s talk about the health wagon for a minute. Are you familiar?

I’m not sure I can define this elusive wagon for you exactly, but I do know it’s something people feel like they can fall off of.

A simplified guide to avoid falling off the wellness wagon. Read on for more on how to ditch the wagon and practice gentle. #feelgoodeffect #realfoodwholelife #wellness #healthy #gentleisthenewperfect #practicegentle

Especially this time of year.

This time of year with short days, long nights, and cold.

This time of year of parties, family, friends, drinks, sweets, and all the rest.

This time of year some of us think we’ve fallen all the way off the wagon.

And once off the wagon, we might as well just spiral down into a black hole of indulgence.

A hole that we think we can only dig out of come January.

I admit that I know the wagon mindset well.

It’s the all-or-nothing, I’ve-already-ruined-it, might-as-well-start-over-monday mindset that’s been in my back pocket over the years, ready to pull out when life gets hard or the days get dark.

It always starts innocently enough.

Cheese + wine with friends, followed by skipping a workout in favor of coffee and donuts with the family (dad, I blame you for the donuts).

These were, and are, indulgences that I consider worth it.

And I don’t think it’s these that are a problem.

I think the problem is the wagon.

Thinking that a few worth-it splurges automatically equal a month-long shame spiral.

Buying into the all-or-nothing health lie that you have to do it perfectly.

The lie that if you miss a few days (or weeks) or eat gluten, or (god-forbid) sugar then that’s it, you might as well give up, because you are OFF THE WAGON.

As for me, I’ve moved on.

Life is not a wagon.

It’s simply a series of days, filled with beautiful opportunities to make choices.

To choose to take care of myself and nurture my body, mostly with energizing whole food, tons of water, meditation, mindfulness, and plenty of movement.

But also, importantly, sometimes pie.

And always, always, a whole lot of gentle.

So this month, here is my invitation to you: find your special, and embrace your splurges.

But feel free to go ahead and ditch the wagon.

Each day is yours.

Independent, beautiful opportunities full of choices that are yours to make.

Have fun.

Ditch the wagon.

Be love.

Practice gentle.

#gentleisthenewperfect


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How to Prioritize When Everything Is Important

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Want a simple way to prioritize when everything seems important? Read on for the simple strategy that will help you prioritize with purpose.

Here’s a simple way to prioritize when everything seems important. The secret? To prioritize with purpose and process. #realfoodwholelife #productivity #organization #intention #mindful #mindfulliving

Prioritize with Purpose

You know that feeling when you’ve got a to-do list is a mile long, and it feels like there just aren’t enough hours in the day to get it all done?

You know, that feeling when everything seems important, and there’s absolutely no way you can possibly fit it all in?

Yeah, that feeling is totally normal.

Between work, family, chores, and taking care of wellness, the feeling of never-ending, never-enough, done can creep up quickly.

The worst part?

The longer the list, the more overwhelming the whole thing starts to seem, and the less likely it is that you’ll be able to focus in and get anything done.

Here’s the good news: there is a simple way to prioritize when everything seems important.

The secret? To prioritize with purpose and process.

To take that crazy to-do list and run it through a filter that will allow you to prioritize what actually matters, and that will set you on a sustainable path toward your goals.

It all starts by asking a simple set of questions. Here’s how it works.

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    5 Key Questions

    1. Which tasks are intentional and meaningful?

    Take each item on your to-do list, one-by-one, and ask yourself if doing the task has any real meaning to you.

    Is is something with significance, that truly matters?

    Is it something that’s connected to your “why,” or your overall values?

    If the answer is yes, then keep it one your list.

    If the answer is no, move onto the next question.

    2. Which tasks are not intentional or meaningful?

    Using a critical eye, examine those items on your list that aren’t intentional or meaningful.

    There are often those items that you think you should do, rather than what really has meaning to you.

    Or there are the items related to others’ expectations or demands, but that don’t align with your life and values.

    Once you find these non-purposeful items, go ahead and ditch them, or at the very least, move them to the bottom of the list.

    3. Which tasks help to create a sustainable path forward?

    Think in terms incremental forward progress here.

    Does the items connect to a bigger goal or plan?

    Is it laid out in a way that allows you to take baby steps, to create momentum, to sustain effort over time?

    If so, keep the item on your list!

    Here’s a simple way to prioritize when everything seems important. The secret? To prioritize with purpose and process. #realfoodwholelife #productivity #organization #intention #mindful #mindfulliving

    4. Which tasks are without process?

    Take a close look at the items left.

    This is the stuff that generally fills our days.

    The busy work, the stuff that is more for other people than for our own values, the time wasters, the distractions.

    If the item isn’t leading you to where you want to be, in a way that’s incremental, then go ahead and take it off the list.

    5. How can I repeat and refine?

    Now keep coming back to these questions again and again.

    Ask which items have purpose and process.

    Then work on prioritizing these.

    When you apply these questions it becomes clear that everything is not actually equally important, and that some things matter more than others.

    Start your day with the purpose and process items, or take them on when you have the most energy.

    Then be okay with letting the rest go, or at least letting them fall to to the bottom of the list.

    More purpose, more process, more focus on really matters.

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