This is a unique discussion with a beautiful soul about self-empowerment, stepping into your power, and so much more.
How to Step into Your Power with Lalah Delia
Lalah Delia, spiritual writer, wellness educator, and founder of Vibrate Higher Daily, walks us through how to empower yourself, how to step into your own power, and how to change the relationship with your body using daily, intentional choices.
Today we’re speaking with a beautiful soul, Lalah Delia.
Lalah is a spiritual writer, wellness educator, and founder of Vibrate Higher Daily.
This is a discussion about self-empowerment, about stepping into your power, and so much more-- you’re going to love this episode.
In this episode Lalah is sharing exactly what she means by vibrate higher, how to empower yourself and step into your own power, regardless of your life story, circumstances, or things that may have held you back.
We talk about making daily, intentional choices, aging with grace, and using all of this to change the relationship with your body, which is one of my favorite conversations that we’ve had about this.
And then a really interesting discussion about surrender-- what that means and how you can actually use that to let go of the things that are no longer serving you.
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We get to talk to so many different experts, innovators, and thought leaders on the show, but we actually haven’t ever had someone in Lalah’s genre, talking about spirituality.
This is going to be such a different conversation, and the way Lalah got to where she’s at is so unique, so let’s dive in.
A little on how Lalah got to Vibrate Higher Daily:
Lalah is so passionate about vibrating higher daily because it has transformed the way she sees the world and the way she feels on a mind, body, spirit level.
It got her out of a life that was rock bottom and a time that seemed like the lows were out-shadowing the highs.
She was looking for a way to exit that cycle and have more balance in her life.
She shared her story publicly because she’s so passionate about people knowing and realizing that they can live a better life, no matter where they are or what they are looking to heal from.
All of these things are heavy and they’re sometimes hard to figure out on our own, but once we have the tools and a path, a whole other world opens to us and we have a new lease on life.
Lalah grew up with a heavy spiritual background, her father a practicing Buddhist, her mother a Christian involved with the church, her grandmothers church elders, and she was in the choir from as young as she can remember through adulthood.
But throughout that, Lalah had her own dark journeys and tests and trials where she questioned her faith and got lost.
She really had to meet the divine, the most high, on a personal level, and not a religious level.
She had to for herself, and not her family, which played a huge role in her personal relationship with the divine and her healing.
When you grow up in a religious family and culture, it can just become so robotic and automatic; you do things because that’s the culture that was set in place for you.
And it wasn’t until Lalah rebelled against it, a lot of that rebellion coming from pain and not knowing what to do with it.
She was holding in and hiding her traumas that she knew might upset her father, knowing that he might retaliate, being that it was the culture she lived in; when something happens to someone you love, you retaliate.
As a young girl that was the conversation she had with her peers, that she could keep this from her father and figure it out on her own, and she did just that for as long as she could
“There’s only so far we can carry our wounds on our own”.
When the path opened up for her, it was through more and more crises.
The ultimate two being physical abuse that got really bad and then she was diagnosed with an illness that required emergency surgery without a sure outcome.
So she trusted and she took it as a sign that something has to change, she couldn’t go back to the life that she had before she entered the emergency room, before that crisis.
From there, se decided not to have that surgery and entered the world of holistic medicine, which her sister had been trying to get her on the path of.
She took herbs and plant medicine and it healed her and her mind.
Having to be on a whole different nutritional path, which was completely plant-based, for 90 days completely restructured the way she thought, the way she felt, and her emotional state.
She was in awe, because up until that point she was in such a fight or flight mode all the time, her nervous system was always overactive.
Granted, there were beautiful times throughout that, but they were balanced with the pain, and finally she was able to feel fully balanced.
No matter what she was feeling inside, the whole mountain that she was going to have the climb to change her life didn’t look so big or foriegn anymore-- it was doable.
Her strength continued to grow, and she changed as a young woman, which led her to a whole different life and path.
Coming out of that was interesting for Lalah.
Her mother has always been about prayer, about keeping the most high in the situation, and she was the one that was making sure that Lalah was praying and was still keeping her faith with her.
She would send Lalah scriptures, prayers, or conversations to lead her back to the center, which was spirituality.
And when Lalah’s health crisis happened, it was almost as if everything they had planted in her was showing up in this time of crisis.
She was able to pull on that to the point of going further into the work, which for her, looked like taking classes, taking counseling, and doing the things that used to be very foreign to her, even though there was that stigma around it.
Coming from an inner-city, it’s not so popular to go to counseling-- there’s a whole thing about having to be strong and having the game face on all the time, which in actuality is so unhealthy and an unbalanced way to live.
But, if you’re living from a place of centered power, that’s healthy.
When you’re running from the pain and hiding the pain, masking it with a game face, that’s so unhealthy, and that’s where Lalah was.
Lalah’s spirituality allowed her to soften where she always felt hardened; it truly brought her to a place of surrender.
And after the surrender happened, that’s when so much started changing: the type of work she did, the type of friends she connected with, the types of relationships she was able to let go of-- this healing journey came for everything.
Through patience, diligence, and really trusting in a divine force guiding her, Lalah was trusting the process that everything would be okay throughout.
And it was scary to feel that at first, but the more she stuck to it, the stronger she got in it.
It allowed her to really stay faithful and at that moment, really live the faith she grew up learning about.
She was able to live from a higher perspective and a more centered place within.
Back in the day, surrendering wasn’t an easy option for Lalah.
Even now, it’s not something all of her family understands.
She has family members who are in gangs, others who are in the penitentiary-- the reality of some people is so completely different, and the word “surrender” can be a trigger instead of a word of healing.
It’s a matter of what vibration are you coming to the word with.
We all get our invitation to vibrate higher at different times and we just have to hold space and love for those whose invitation hasn't come yet, knowing that it can happen for them.
Surrendering is about not trying to manipulate the divine timing that’s set for us.
When we’re able to understand that “this is going to happen for me at the specific set time”, we can get into alignment with it, because all the best energies and working tools are in place to serve us better there, instead of trying to force it now.
“Surrendering is all about allowing what’s supposed to appear, appear, and knowing that you’re ready for it”.
On surrender and self-power:
When you’re trying to force everything, it’s just not going to be right, you’re going to end up harming yourself and hurting yourself more than if you just let go.
We give our power away in so many different ways when we choose not to surrender, whether it’s a nutritional path that we know we need to take on and give up a way that’s harming our body, or a relationship that we need to surrender in order to grow fuller a live a more fulfilled life, or a hope and a dream that we need to surrender to now in order for all the working parts to come into place.
“Surrender is never about giving up”.
Sometimes it can feel like surrendering is giving up, because the word gets used in such a negative connotation.
In movies and media, it’s all about surrendering as a victim and that’s the message around it.
But there’s a whole other reality and meaning for it, and that is surrendering to actually come into your power and your rightful place.
On what it means to vibrate higher and how to do it:
Vibrating higher daily is the mindset.
It’s the foundation of living a life that’s able to serve you in a way that’s healthier and more conducive to who you are here to be in the world.
We are these vibrational, energetic beings, and when we can understand that just as a computer needs charge so we can access so much of the world, the human body was the first electrical device; mind, body, spirit, we are electrical, meaning we do have to charge.
And there’s only so much energy that we have each day to give out.
As you give it out, it’s so important to vibrate higher in that way, meaning we are resting, rejuvenating, eating things that are nourishing and restoring to us.
And sometimes someone or something is giving energy back to us, but other times not so much.
Then, if it or they are giving energy back to us, we have to see if it’s serving us or not, if it’s draining us or fueling us.
How is this food fueling me back?
How is this person fueling me back?
How is the energy exchange between us?
Is this a draining energy? A helpful energy? An affirming energy? A disagreeable energy?
Lalah specifically includes the word “daily” in Vibrate Higher Daily because it’s all about starting where you are everyday.
Monday you may have been on top of the world but by Wednesday, maybe your energy reserves have depleted.
“Each day we have a choice to vibrate higher daily from where we find ourselves”.
It’s not vibrate higher daily where we’re going to reach some ultimate state of never being affected by the negative things in the world, but it’s daily knowing that we have the power, grace, and the ability to start where we are and choose to go higher, to choose not to let any of the negativity stick to us.
And again to surrender to a higher path.
Sometimes it’s more comfortable to stay in the hurt, in pain, in anger, in the lower vibration, in the deplicion.
When you’re depleted, it is harder to get up and go take the tonic, or go to the yoga studio, or go get in the bath, or to have the conversation and do the things that are necessary to put you back in a place of your power.
Vibrate higher daily is to truly know that to vibrate, you have to actually do something, there has to be some type of force there that helps you go higher.
And as you do it daily, it’s building you more and putting you in the direction of where you want to see energy in your life manifest.
We’ve talked about the feedback loop on the Feel Good Effect before.
We have a certain amount of energy every day, but we don’t have a cognizant way of paying attention to where that energy is going, which is exactly what Lalah is shining a light on.
By bringing that awareness and attention, there are a lot of ways that we can see what things are draining our energy and what is restoring it.
Paying attention to the loop and making those tweaks and changes allows that upward spiral to vibrate higher daily.
Being centered in your power:
As energetic beings, the energy gives power to us, to the things we’re putting into the world, to our relationships.
The word “power” can be as inclusive as you want it to be, from power through the way you eat, to power through the way you show up in relationships, to power how you’re manifesting the world.
It’s so important to show up wherever we are, daily, in our power, because when we’re not in our power, that means something else is in control.
Energy exchange is a beautiful dance all day long.
And like two people dancing, it can be out of harmony, but when two people know what they’re doing in the same instance, it’s a beautiful exchange.
It’s about keeping your power when you’re around people, keeping your power in relationships, and keeping your power within your inner life, which can be replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
Something as simple as scrolling through social media can take our power away, if we are unintentionally seeing something that just drains us or a news headline that just shakes us to our core.
This vibrating higher daily path allows us to not be taken aback.
“We can show up in our power and know that we can offer the world a higher vibrational path”.
Whether it’s an answer, or to listen, or show up in service.
On “growing in grace”:
Lalah never says she’s growing older, she says that she’s growing in grace.
She absolutely honors women who have come before us and lived a well-versed life, whether it’s a life of pain or of triumph, they can teach us.
Lalah is from that indigenous mindset, the ancestral sacred mindset that elders know the way.
Understanding that a lot of people need to feel youthful in order to feel powerful, Lalah truly looks to women who are well-versed enough to teach the younger generation.
It’s important for everyone to honor each other in that way of learning and growing from each other.
On a changing power structure:
The whole power structure is shifting and changing now.
It’s crumbling and a new system is birthing, and Lalah is sitting in the front seat with her popcorn excited, knowing that this is what we’ve all been doing the work for.
We each have the power to send divine energy and intentions out into the world.
And there’s so many ways that the power structure is changing-- it’s calling for each of us to stand in our own power in order to change the world, because it’s going to take all of us to do it.
On taking back the power with our relationship with our bodies:
Awareness is the first place to center in on.
There are three things going on with body consciousness:
1 | on one hand there’s a field where women are becoming surgically enhanced.
2 | there’s a middle-field where women, acknowledging the field of enhancement, weigh whether or not they want to reach those types of goals.
3 | then there’s the other side of the spectrum with women who are completely body-positive.
It’s all about asking yourself where you want to be in order to feel high vibrational.
It’s about looking to see what the original intention was.
Is it comparison? If so, you’ll know it’s not the highest vibrational place you can have.
“If you come from a place that’s not the most genuine… it’ll always lead you to chasing more and more outside approval and gratification. And if you are from a place of loving yourself, of self-love, that’s where you’ll always have the most beautiful energy and the most healing”.
The body will not recognize itself, as far as vibrational, if you continue bringing in outside energies and comparisons; it will be at work with itself.
“We have our own unique power, we have our own unique body, and we don’t have to treat our body like it’s not enough”.
As we continue to vibrate higher and live in awareness of all of our gifts, of self-love, of healing the wounds within, our bodies start looking more beautiful to us.
Know that you’re not alone in this struggle, it’s about what types of women you’re looking at and what types of conversations you’re leaning into
We have to understand that we’re continually growing into the women that we are and that’s a process that takes patience and love.
Send yourself love, love, love.
On what’s lighting up Lalah right now:
Absolutely, 100% writing her book.
She and her editor are getting very close to turning in their manuscript and it has been a life-changing journey for her.
Lalah absolutely loves this process, so turning in the manuscript will be bitter-sweet, but she’s looking forward to the next steps in this ongoing process.
She wants this to be a source of motivation, inspiration, encouragement, and application.
Stay tuned for her publish date in Fall of 2019!
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On what it really means to be healthy:
“True healthiness, to me, is wellness… And I think healthy is a holistic way of living, when the way you treat people, the way you live, the work you do in the word, it’s all from the same vibration, your higher vibrational self, and it’s in a place of service, of love, of wellness… It’s all connected. When you can live in that place… that is healthy living”.
Lalah Delia, is a spiritual writer, wellness educator, and the founder of VibrateHigherDaily.com. She is engaged daily in pushing wholeness, harmony, transformation, self-empowerment, and healthy lifestyle, forward, through the message and practice of vibrating higher daily.
Lalah’s core message is that vibration plays a contributing, and very interconnected, role throughout our everyday lives, our experiences, manifestations, doings, being, and becomings. And, that our vibration governs how we show up in the world and how we perceive it.
Lalah’s work is a response to the current world we live, maneuver, and journey in and through daily.
Lalah can be found featured in Glamour Magazine, Thoughtfully Magazine, and by ESSENCE, LA YOGA, GIRLBOSS, Prestige Magazine, Black Girl In OM, and more.
Her book Vibrate Higher Daily, Live Your Power, with HarperOne publishing, will soon be available everywhere books are sold, this fall.
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