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10 Things I’m Afraid to Tell You

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There are some things I’ve been meaning to tell you.

It’s not really that I’m afraid to tell you them. It’s more that I haven’t had the chance. 

Or, to be honest, that I haven’t created the chance. 

To be fair, it can be hard here on the interweb to speak clearly and honestly. 

Difficult, too, to walk the line of what’s private and what’s public, of what to share, and what to keep to oneself.

That said, if you come here often, if you’re part of this community, there are some things I want to tell you. 

10 Things I'm Afraid to Tell You.

1 | I Don’t Want to Talk About Weight Loss

That’s right. I don’t want to talk about weight loss. It just is not my goal, in my own life, or here on Real Food Whole Life.

I should note that there have been times in the past when I shared my weight loss story, and even a before-and-after picture or two. 

Skim through blog post archives and I’m sure you’ll find the evidence. All of that is part of my journey, and I don’t regret any of it. 

And to be clear, I absolutely do not judge or look down on anyone who is trying to lose weight. I was right there with you, and understand the struggle very intimately. I get it. Trust me, I totally get it.

But I just don’t want to talk about it anymore.

Can I tell you what I do want to talk about?

I want to talk about feeling good. 

About eating nourishing foods because they make you feel amazing.

About moving because doing so makes your body and mind strong, and calm, and filled with vitality.

About self-love, and empowerment, and living life based on what is truly important.

2 | The Autoimmune Disease No One Has Heard Of

Okay, so I mentioned in this post that in the past year I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease. 

I haven’t shared details or the full story primarily because it’s something I’m still figuring out myself. 

The entire process has been full of some pretty big ups and downs and I honestly haven’t had the energy to put it all out there.

That said, there’s such a lack of information about this particular autoimmune disease that sharing my story will likely help others.

So, I’m working on writing up the experience and will be sharing it here very soon. Update: Here are the details of the autoimmune disease no one has ever heard of.

3 | And on the Subject of Health

Since we’re in full-on honesty mode here, we might as well go for it, right?

In addition to the autoimmune diagnosis, I’ve also been having some health issues related to painful ovarian cysts.

Ovarian cysts are extremely common for many women, and don’t generally cause problems. 

Mine, on the other hand, seem to be the painful, complex, rupturing type and have landed me in the ER due to excruciating pain.

I’ve been to several doctors, endured more ultrasounds than I’d like to count, and am currently working with both my OB-GYN and a Naturopath to get a handle on the situation.

There have been rather unsettling diagnoses floated my way such as endometriosis, but for now everything is just a working theory.

As someone who considers herself a healthy person, the combination of these two health issues has been somewhat unsettling.

It stinks when you feel like something is going wrong with your body, and it’s equally troubling to not know exactly what to do about it.

I haven’t mentioned the ovary stuff here, because, well, it’s kind of a conversation killer. Not everyone wants to talk about ovaries, you know?

Also, it’s not usually directly relevant to the day-to-day recipe or how-to post. 

I share it now for those of you who are going through something similar, to let you know that you are not alone. 

4 | I Don’t Eat Perfectly

Just wanted to get this out there, in case there was any confusion. 

I don’t eat perfectly.

For the record, I don’t think there is a perfect way to eat.

Sometimes I eat dairy. Sometimes I eat refined sugar. I’ll eat an occasional burger from Five Guys. I eat gluten, too, though I’m trying to cut that out for reasons related to #2.

I share this because I worry that the current "health and wellness" industry is, perhaps unintentionally, creating a culture of aspirational, unattainable ideals of perfect eating.

It’s an attempt in inspire, at least I think that's what's behind this push toward perfect.

But, I want to make sure that I'm not contributing to this unreachable standard upon which you might be measuring your own efforts.

So, I eat real food to feel good as often as I can. Sometimes I don't.

And all in all, I am more concerned with feeling good overall than following a a so-called perfect way of eating.

5 | More Than Just Recipes

Okay, here’s the thing guys. I absolutely love creating and sharing free recipes for you. 

There’s something really special about going into the kitchen, experimenting with real food ingredients, and knowing that you and your family are enjoying the results.

And there’s nothing that makes me happier than hearing that my recipes have changed the way you eat. And I mean nothing.

But after 2+ years of creating, testing, photographing, and posting recipes every single week I’m ready for more.

Ready to write about how to incorporate real food into your real life, and more broadly about whole living.

Which, I admit, is a little scary.

Because so many of you know me for my recipes, (which, like I said, is awesome), writing about other things can feel like a risk. 

I feel so strongly that whole + healthy living is about more than just food, though, that I’m willing to go for it. 

I hope you’ll come along for the ride.

And don’t worry, I’ll still be sharing plenty of recipes. 

6 | I’d Rather Play Then Plan

Also wanted to get this one out there. I’d rather be playing than meal planning.

Don’t get me wrong. I think meal planning is absolutely essential to making real, healthy food a part of your everyday.

But I’d definitely rather be playing outside than spending hours meal planning. 

I’m not going for perfect when it comes to planning, either. Just a quick map of what we’re going to eat and enough of a plan to get what we need at the grocery store. 

That’s actually the real reason I created Real Food Fix. I couldn’t find anything out there that appealed to my desire to plan less. 

So I made something for you, my community, whom I'm guessing would also rather play than plan. 

7 | Sometimes I Workout for An Hour a Day. More Often, I Don’t.

Again, my life isn’t about striving toward a perfect ideal. 

Some days I have time for an hour workout, but most days I don’t.

Often my day includes a quick 5 minutes in the morning, a quick walk during the day, and 5 minutes at night. 

The something-is-better than nothing mentality has done wonders when it comes to adding movement to my daily routine.

I still love to take a full barre3 studio class or sweat it out in a 60-minute hot yoga class, but when an hour isn’t possible I’ve found 5 minutes works, too.

8 | I’m Learning to Meditate

This is something I thought I’d never do.

I always thought meditation was too hard, too boring, and just a little too out there.

The practice is admittedly challenging, but I’ve experienced so many benefits within my daily life already that I’m inspired to keep going.

In the future, I’m looking forward to sharing more of my practice, what’s working (and what’s not), and how you might be able to incorporate mindfulness practices into your own life.

Update: One of my favorite ways to meditate is to incorporate movement. Here's more!

9 | I’m Working on Something New. And It Scares Me.

How’s that for a teaser?

For now, all I can say is that I’m working on a big new project and I am all at once bursting at the seams with excitement and also completely terrified by the process.

I not quite ready to share details until the project is a little further along, but I hope to announce within the next few months. 

Details will go out to the Real Food Whole Life community newsletter first, so if you want the scoop before anyone else, you can hop on the list.

Update: I launched the Feel Good Effect podcast and your response has been amazing. Details here.

10 | Feel Good. That is All.

This is my focus, my mantra, my everything right now.

Feel Good. That is all.

More on this soon, too. I promise.

Special thanks to The Lively Show and The Goal Digger podcasts for inspiring the title of this post.